WHAT’S THE STORY BEHIND UNdefine?
When I first started coaching I did so under the name UNdefine Yourself, LLC. I know the name choice seems odd, but as a life coach my goal was to help people live better lives without labels. You’re not the fat girl or the smart guy or the loser or the procrastinator. You’re YOU. And you’re a collection of things that can’t really be labeled. So, I chose “UNdefine Yourself” to connote that you are more than a label.
As far as labels go, I have had a lot. I’m a daughter, sister, wife, mother, athlete, soldier, lawyer, breast cancer survivor. Along with each of those labels, I tried on a lot of different personas over the years.
What I’ve come to find is that all the achievement, all the striving for someone else’s best, left me feeling a lot less WHOLE than I thought I *should* have felt. My life was perfect — beautiful family, wonderful husband, ability to be a stay-at-home mom — yet, I felt in shambles. I was on anti-depressants, gaining weight, and unmotivated. So what gives?
I was so busy labeling myself and worrying about what other people thought of me that I forgot the most basic set of rules to live by. After a year of therapy and sorting through my own muck, I discovered that I was the only one that could shed the beliefs that I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, or fast enough. Once I realized that no one else set the rules, a bright new world was opened to me.
Through all the striving and achieving I’d forgotten to have FAITH. Faith that I knew just what to do and when. Faith that “it” (whatever “it” might be) would work out. Faith that I could decide how to be happy. Once I saw this truth — that all it took was listening to my body and heart — I started to live it. I regained my FAITH and I started living my own TRUTH.
Now, I’m set on helping others to find their FAITH and their TRUTH because without those things, we’re really just pretending to live. And why pretend when you can experience the real thing … good, bad, up, down … all while loving every minute of it?!